20 things I learned by my 20th birthday
There are many more things I have learned besides these 20 things, so maybe I’ll make another ongoing list at a later date.
My biggest pet peeve in the entire world is people with no sense of urgency. Is it your first day on earth? Move at a pace that doesn’t interrupt others
I really value my alone time. I love being with people, but having my own space and independence is one of the most important things to me.
Sometimes you need to take a break and come back to something, but other times you need to push yourself to get something done.
Music is one of very few things that can center me back to myself. It is the single most important thing to me, if you do not listen to music, I do not trust you as a person. If I ever went deaf, I genuinely think I wouldn’t be able to survive.
I hate no pet name more than being called cute, or princess. It makes me feel like a child, and incapable of being seen as mature. I hate being seen as incompetent.
I’m a very picky eater and will stick to the same few foods that feel safe for me, but I am always down to try something once.
I am very spiritual, but not religious. I am always going to be skeptical first, even with everything I have seen/heard.
I much prefer doing simple things with friends like going to a diner or driving around over doing an activity like going to an arcade or playing a sport together. Co-existing with someone is something I value in every relationship.
Actions speak louder than words, but you need to have a baseline communication to understand what someone’s actions and body language is contradicting.
The difference between being actively or passively suicidal.
When I enjoy things, I enjoy them deeply. I am constantly battling between wanting everyone to also enjoy the thing and see how much joy it brings me and also wanting to gatekeep it from the world so no one can enjoy it more than me.
I love when people ask me things about myself, interview style. It makes me feel important and loved when people then remember those details, and in turn, it helps me learn what makes people curious so I can learn about them.
I don’t have a set style. It truly depends on the day, or my latest obsession.
It’s not mean if you’re standing up for yourself. If someone is upset, it’s on them.
I have a lonely soul. As a baseline, I am a deeply sad person. Physical touch always helps. Quality Time and Physical Touch are my love languages.
It’s easier to have empathy towards animals and the dead than living people.
Incompetence and lack of creativity are the biggest turn offs. Confidence and ambition are the biggest turn ons.
It is impossible to have an intelligent conversation with someone who refuses to learn.
Cemeteries are some of the most calming places to be at. Quietly surrounding yourself with death is an excellent way to feel more connected with the world around you and support the people who do not have people to visit them.
I don’t understand the concept of not wanting to travel. I will never be content with staying in one place if I have not explored most of the world.